Are you in a "situationship" with your calling? Or are you devoted?

The alchemy of devotion

I think devotion to your calling is the ultimate act of submission for the ego. And there are very few things more vulnerable than that.

At first glance, devotion may sound sexy. Just like the honey moon phase of a marriage. And then you see the shadows. You see the less desirable aspects of pursuing your calling… or better yet, of letting your calling pursue you.

You see all the ways your craft wants to shape and stretch you.

You see all the ways it wants to cast a light on your insecurities and all the ways you fragmented yourself to fit in a society that wasn’t ready for your fullness.

And also, let’s set the record straight, even you, weren’t ready for your fullness.

So, deep down you know that as you consider devoting yourself to your calling, it is about embracing a slow death of who you used to be. A death that will require many detours in your own shadow.

Because deep down we know the price that devotion requires, many choose to settle for a “situationship” with their calling.

Outgrowing the situationthip with your calling

I am well aware of how “safe” a situationship with your calling feels.

I think it is a necessary part of the journey of spiritual maturation. You know, like going on dates with someone you have a romantic interest in.

But there is a shadow to that dynamics. Like wanting the full benefits of a committed relationship without the “commitment” part. It’s an addictive brew of chemistry, avoidance, fear, and short-lived highs.

It looks a lot like only showing up when inspiration strikes… Only meditating or sitting with your practice when it’s convenient, but ghosting your calling when the chemistry seems to fade.

That’s not devotion. That’s a situationship.

It’s easy to be devoted when your inspirational juices flow. But the true test of devotion happens when it feels like your soul has gone quiet.

This is something I know intimately. I have done it for years. And I still have to monitor closely my avoidance to the ego submission that devotion requires.

I danced with my calling as if it was an occasional lover. I gave it just enough attention to feel connected, but not nearly enough to allow it to change me deeply.

And that is the key, your calling wants to change you too. It actually wants to change your FIRST.

I feared what it would require of me If I surrendered fully.

Until I came to realize that I did not need to have that fear disappear in order to be devoted. Learning to sit with the part of me that was afraid with as much compassion and presence I could harness, was the first step towards true devotion.

The more I did that, the more I realized that devotion does not take from you. It expands you. It purifies you. It burns the white noise that keeps you asleep, and it returns you to your essence.

For better or for void

Devotion will require of you to keep the flame of commitment even when it feels like your soul has gone quiet. Even when it feels like the void is swallowing you whole.

This needs to be more than just insight to ignite transformation within you. This needs to become an instruction that your cells operate from. It needs to be embodied. It is a skill.

A skill that I hope to be able to transmit to you this weekend.

Your invitation to cross the threshold of devotion

This weekend I have the pleasure to facilitate a potent class at the WIFEY Symposium.

It’s about alchemy through devotion. It’s about dissolving at a deeper level the first form of self abandonment. The repression of your calling. It’s about doing that as an act of personal evolution.

Why are we so afraid of devotion? Because it engages the soul. It goes beyond a mere commitment. It is a vow that transcends lifetimes. And I want to support you through that process.

I’ll have the honor of teaching alongside 15 other evolutionary thinkers and facilitators in their own right.

WIFEY is more than just a symposium. It’s a vow to the life you say you want.

While most programs focus on clarity, confidence, or productivity, WIFEY dares to go deeper. And if you have been following my work, you must know by now that I am a devotee of depth.

It’s built on the belief that devotion is what unlocks lasting alignment, meaningful work, and rich creative fulfillment.

In this 3-day immersive experience, we’ll explore what it means to marry your mission and to show up for your path the way you'd show up for a great love.

The doors to WIFEY close in less than 24 hours. And don’t let the name of the event full you. This is open to everyone.

If you are ready for the next level of expansion of your craft and commitment to your calling, this is for you. Click HERE to embrace the initiation.

In gratitude and reverence,
— Xavier

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