Awakening the heart centered villain

The art of reclaiming your inner authority

Odds are you won’t be able to reclaim a sense of inner authority, if you are unwilling to make peace with being seen as a villain, especially when that’s what is required to stay true to your heart and inner knowingness.

This month in my private community (The Embodied Light Project) we’ve been exploring the inner workings of reclaiming conscious authority over your life. This means dissolving the hidden tendencies that often cause you to outsource authority over your life and the choices you make. I think it’s a necessary step of the journey of spiritual maturation.

One of the key points we’ve explored is the necessity to reclaim the “villain archetype”. To be more specific, I am talking about the highest expression of that archetype, which is what we will be exploring in this written piece.

Most people think of a villain as someone who is consciously acting with the intent to hurt others or to disempower them. But that is only the shadow expression of the villain archetype.

I would like to introduce you to the highest expression of the villain archetype. I call it the heart centered villain. I consider it to be one of the archetypes of self liberation. I will share with you the 7 key attributes of the heart centered villain, and I have a special invitation for you at the end that will support your journey of embodying this archetype.

Let me start with this statement:

it’s important to romance the heart centered villain in order to have a true sense of your own power.

With that said, let’s dive in!!!

Befriending the heart centered villain within

Regardless of how agreeable you try to be, there are some situations where choosing to stay true to yourself may inadvertently cause people to feel hurt or disappointed by the choices you make. Does that sound any familiar?

What do you do in these situations? Do you abandon yourself to please and appease? Or do you build the emotional stamina to make peace with being seen as a villain even though you are coming from your heart and inner alignment.

I think for every true seeker, it is important to choose that latter.

Here are just a few examples of situations that may make you feel like a villain in someone else’s story, even if you are not coming from an intent to hurt them.

• Setting a healthy boundary

• Quitting a job that is no longer in alignment, may cause you to be seen as a villain by the employer

• Breaking up with someone when your heart is no longer in the relationship

The list goes on…

The reality is that any choice you make, regardless of how heart centered you try to be, can have the inadvertent consequence of having you be seen as a villain. You cannot control the lens through which other people see you. And it’s necessary to let it be okay.

Do you agree?

The only thing within your control, is to make sure that you truly come from a heart centered place. This is why I would like to share with you the attributes of the heart centered villain.

The 7 attributes of the heart centered villain

I compiled a list of what I consider to be the 7 attributes that the heart centered villain embodies. This comes from my own archetypal studies and my years of facilitating conflict resolution when it comes to relational dynamics.

1. Be in tune with your inner guidance. The heart centered villain is coming from their heart and inner knowingness. Your expression is coming from an intent to honor your alignment above everything else. It’s coming from the intent to not default to self abandonment.

2. There is an awareness that other people might get hurt by your expression. The heart centered villain knows that other people might get hurt if the choice to honor the inner guidance is made. This awareness is necessary. It helps you infuse your expression with more grace. At the core, the heart centered villain cares and is emotionally aware.

3. There is NO intention to deliberately hurt others. It’s important to do the necessary inner work to make sure that you are not acting from a deliberate intent to be hurtful. That implies meeting fully your own pain and resolving it so that you are not coming from an intention for revenge. Others might feel hurt as an unfortunate consequence, not as the main intention.

4. Compassionate delivery. Because the heart centered villain is coming from the heart, there is compassion in the expression of authenticity. The heart centered villain is not weaponizing authenticity or truth.

5. The heart centered villain gives full responsibility to other people for how they respond. This means surrendering the need to manage other people’s reactions to your authentic self expression.

6. The heart centered villain has accepted being seen as the villain or being misunderstood even when it’s painful. This is precisely what gives this archetype its name.

7. The heart centered villain trusts that staying in their authentic self expression is serving the highest good for all involved.

These are key attributes that will liberate you when embodied. The heart centered villain is an archetype that is necessary to embrace in order to express the boundaries that would cause you to reopen your heart.

How are these attributes sitting with you? Which one resonates most with you? Please share your thoughts below.

In order to achieve all that, one key emotional experience that the heart centered villain needs to master, is heart centered anger. It is the fuel for your sense of self respect or dignity.

Without reclaiming heart centered anger, the villain archetype can easily express its shadow side. That means showing up as passive aggressive, out right aggressive and hostile, with the intent to hurt and inflict pain.

Awakening heart centered anger

Heart centered anger is not hostility. It’s not aggression. It’s not ill will. It is the sacred inner fire that invites you to honor your integrity and to deepen your self respect. At its core, it is infused with a compassionate intent, even though it can be fierce.

Embracing it will cause you to deepen intimacy in relationships by expressing the boundaries needed to reveal your true nature. It creates the space necessary to reveal your authenticity and to open your heart. It gives you the stamina necessary to face your fears, and it fuels your self liberation.

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Next Sunday, June 2nd, I am facilitating live one of my signature workshops called Awakening Heart Centered Anger. It’s a deep exploration of how you can heal your relationship with the raw nature of anger, and how to turn it into a force for self liberation, personal transformation and relational intimacy (more details HERE).

Here is what we will cover:

• A somatic and integrative approach to reconnecting with your repressed anger, to metabolize it and to recognize its highest invitations.

• How to clean your anger from hostility, to transmute aggression and turn it into a force for compassion, healthy assertiveness and connection.

• How to harness healthy anger to face the fears that cripple your life.

• How to channel your anger in a healthy way to fuel needed boundaries and to take a stand for yourself when appropriate.

• How to release the "nice guy" or "good girl" syndromes, so that you can prioritize being compassionately real and authentic instead of overly agreeable.

• We will meet and integrate the repressed pain in the shadow that anger is often pointing at.

• How to move from self aggression to self compassion through rebalancing your anger.

• I will take you through two (02) signature anger integration processes: reclaiming your sacred fire & befriending your inner dragon.

• You will leave this workshop with practical tools, to work with your anger more skillfully and to maintain healthy and heart-centered communication even when anger emerges. 

Check the link below to join me for this transformative experience.

In gratitude and reverence,

— Xavier