The light at the end was always YOU. The tunnel was the illusion.

Last call to join the alchemy of self abandonment live

Xavier Dagba

Nov 09, 2025

I’ve always had a hard time with the expression “there is light at the end of the tunnel”.

I can see the good intention behind it...

Keep going, there is a benevolent outcome at the end. Keep enduring, if it’s not okay, then it’s not the end yet.

I like that sentiment. But something never sat right with me about that saying.

As much as I love values such as patience, grit and determination, if we are not careful, the saying also sells the idea to just endure.

If we are not careful, it sells the idea that the liberation we seek is some time into the future… but that right now we cannot quite yet reclaim it. Almost as if the goalpost keeps moving eternally.

This is something a deep fire in me rebels against. It almost causes us to abandon our capacity to create radical change NOW.

It fuels to a certain degree the abandonment of our light.

I think you are at the same time the light and the tunnel. Some might say we unconsciously create the tunnel… that’s a debate for another time.

And instead of waiting for the light at the end of the tunnel, you can literally light it up! All the way up.

You can reconcile with your own light. And reclaim the capacity to bring beauty right where you are. Even as you are navigating some of the most challenging circumstances.

And to do that, disrupting all forms of self abandonment needs to become a way of being.

This is why I am so passionate about teaching how to transcend all forms of self abandonment.

Last call to join the alchemy of self abandonment LIVE

The journey begins in less than two hours. This is your opportunity to join the journey LIVE.

**PS: if you already signed up for the first part, there is no extra charge for this part 2.

You don’t need to be “caught up” on part one, to fully receive from part 2. The work meets you exactly where you are, and when you sign up for part two, you get immediate access to the replay of part one. And you’ll have lifetime access to both replays.

What we will cover in part 2

Strengthening the spiritual and emotional stamina needed to stay rooted in your truth when expansion feels threatening
Dissolving the survival reflexes that activate when you begin to rise: collapse, shrinking, self-censorship, and visibility withdrawal
Repatterning your nervous system to hold more visibility, more expression, and more power without interpreting it as danger
Breaking shadow vows that keep you small, such as “If I shine, I will lose people” or “If I speak my truth, I’ll be rejected”
A guided somatic and shamanic-style journey to embody your light without collapse, contraction, or self-abandonment
Practical methods to stay in your body and your voice during moments of visibility, confrontation, or emotional charge