The love you crave is on the other side of the shadow you're avoiding.
Dissolving relational myths that ruin intimacy
I don’t know about you, but I feel like we’ve been fed for a long time relational myths that do nothing else but ruin intimacy.
Would you agree?
Many of these relational myths feed us a subtle expectation that we often don’t realize is at work within us.
The sobering reality is that in most romantic relationships, intimacy can get ruined because we unconsciously expect our partners to parent the parts of us we’ve abandoned.
This is something that can play out without your awareness of it.
The issue is that we conflate that with healthy love.
The love we crave
There’s a kind of love so many of us crave.
A love that liberates instead of confines. A love where your soul feels expressed, not stifled. A love that sees you—not just the curated version of you, but the messy, whole, ever-evolving self.
And yet, many of us remain stuck in relational loops that feel more like survival than sacred connection. We confuse attachment for love. We outsource our worth.
We expect our partners to take full responsibility for some of our needs. And slowly, the spark of sovereignty disappears.
Join me on a relational revival
In the latest episode of ENHEARTENED, I sit with someone whose voice in the space of conscious relationship has deeply impacted me—Dené Logan.
She is a therapist, author of Sovereign Love, and what I call a “relational red pill.” Her work is a direct challenge to the outdated relational templates that keep us stuck.
This conversation is not about quick fixes. It’s not about tools to “communicate better” or manifest your dream partner.
It’s about what happens when you take radical responsibility for your energy in a relationship.
It’s about you becoming your own dream partner so that your relationships can truly transform.
It’s about what shifts when you stop demanding of your partner to soothe your wounds and instead learn to reparent the parts of you that still feel unworthy.
It’s about what becomes possible when you stop negotiating your truth to preserve an attachment.
So much of this episode is about self-abandonment: the ways we silence our essence to maintain connection, and the energetic consequences of doing so.
If you’ve been craving a relational revival, this episode is for you!
Episode 5 of ENHEARTENED with Dené Logan Is Live
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In gratitude and reverence,
— Xavier
A love that results in two liberated, expressed souls is #goalz.
I feel like there needs to be a word for that.