The Relational Cost of Not Living in Alignment with Truth

What you lose, and what you gain, when you finally stop abandoning yourself in relationships

The thought of not abandoning yourself in any way sounds sexy and empowering. I think we all know that it is not necessarily the easiest thing to do. It is even harder to do in a society that looks like it was built on fragmentation and separation.

Living a life and relationships anchored in truth, comes at a price. A price that most people are not necessarily willing to pay.

Instead of telling you about that price, I’d rather help you realize it.

I will make it real practical for you so that this conversation can be as grounded as possible.

In the most spontaneous way you can, complete the following prompts.

• A relationship in my life where I know I’m not my authentic self is…

• The aspects of me that I hide in that relationship are…

• And I hide them because…

• The unwanted outcomes I fear might unfold if I choose to no longer hide in this relationship are…

• The freedom that awaits on the other side if I choose to unleash my authenticity in that relationship is…

What comes up for you as you ponder these prompts? Feel free to share in the comments.

Did you become aware the the cost of living (or not living) truth? At least in that specific relationship?

For many reasons that are often unconscious, we may choose to settle for the false comfort of self abandonment.

I think it is safe to assume that we all have relationships in our lives where we do not express the highest potential of authenticity we know we could.

These relationships, as difficult as they may look, are catalyst for relational maturation and healing.

They are the containers where you come to learn how to no longer abandon yourself, how to heal, and integrate.

Your relational maturation

In this week’s episode of the ENHEARTENED podcast, I am joined by Mark Groves, and we explore what it truly means to live from your truth, even when it costs you comfort, connection, or the familiar. We talk about the physiological toll of betraying yourself, how to stop sabotaging healthy love, and the rituals that allow love to evolve.

Mark shares his story of breaking off an engagement, walking away from Instagram at the peak of his influence, and how he and his now-wife rekindled their relationship through radical truth and sacred pause.

We dive deep into the nervous system, anxious/avoidant patterns, cancel culture, AI, and how to cultivate self-trust in relationships that challenge us to grow…

If you want to radically enhance the quality of your relationships, this episode is one you won’t want to miss.

Episode 16 of ENHEARTENED with Mark Groves is live!

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In gratitude and reverence,
— Xavier

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