Transformation through surrender

When you heart's calling won't take no for an answer

For most people, the most unhealthy relationships in their lives are not the ones they have with other humans.

I suppose you might be assuming that what I’ll say next is that the most unhealthy relationships in our lives are the ones with ourselves, right?

Well, even though it’s most likely true, it’s not what I’m getting at here.

The most unhealthy relationships is our lives are often the ones we have with our inner knowingness, our intuition, the unknown, and our true wants and dreams.

Would you agree?

Most people won’t even allow themselves to name what they truly want and dream of.

The sad reality is that most adults go through life like kids in grown up bodies, afraid to name what they truly want… Unconsciously waiting to be “allowed” to ask for what they want or even go after it.

This is what often gets us trapped in lives we despise.

This is what in time, will get you to feel stuck, and it might even distort the other relationships in your life.

Can you see that?

Transformation through surrender

Surrender is one of the most potent tools for personal transformation.

The way I see it, it has two components.

»»» The first one is this: to love yourself enough to see the truth.

It is to love yourself enough to step out of denial, as uncomfortable as it can be.

It is to love yourself enough to be radically honest with yourself.

How much are you willing to do that?

You want to know what embracing the first step of surrender can look like for yourself? Then complete the next 3 prompts as spontaneously as you can:

• What I need most to admit to myself at this time is…

• A truth I have been unwilling to look at is…

• What I truly want that I rarely allow myself to name is…

Answer these with radical honesty. Truth will emerge. What comes up for you?

Of course awareness is only the first step of surrender.

Being aware of your inner knowing, your intuition and your true wants and dreams is not enough.

»»» The most important part of surrender is this: can you love yourself enough to honor your highest truth?

Can you love yourself enough to let your highest truth run the show?

Can you love yourself enough not to let your fears hijack your heart?

Can you love yourself enough to dance with the unknown and romance the unseen?

That is where the true work is.

That’s what my specialty is. To help you clear the inner conflicts that prevent you from moving forward at the speed of your highest truth.

This is transformation through surrender.

This is what has allowed me to surrender to the work I am doing at the moment.

This framework is what guides me when I reach new crossroads in my life.

You only transform and liberate yourself as fast as you are willing to surrender to your highest truth.

Surrender to your heart’s calling

A few months ago, my colleague and collaborator Lisa Berkovitz invited me to speak at an online gathering she created to support you about surrendering to your heart’s calling... And indeed I accepted.

Well, the event is here! It starts tomorrow and you don’t want to miss it!

The beauty of it is that it is completely free.

It's called: ON GOD'S PAYROLL, Thriving in the Highest Expression of Your Soul Work and Leadership. And it happens from November 11-15, 2024.

Click here to register for free!

I’m thrilled to be one of the featured speakers in On God's Payroll! The topic I'll share with you is UNLEASHED: Illuminating the Shadows that Prevent You from Fully Embracing your Calling.

You will have access to that talk and many other transformative ones for free!

Click here to learn more and join us, starting on 11/11!

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*** PS: On another note, applications are now open for my last group immersion of the year. INTEGRATE is here. INTEGRATE is a 4-month immersion to help you harness the untapped power in your shadow, so that you can Lead, Love and Serve with an unleashed heart. Find more details and apply HERE

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As always, thank you for being here.

In gratitude and reverence,

— Xavier