You were never afraid of being seen

This is what you were protecting...

Here is a message I don’t think I’ll ever stop championing…

You are not afraid of being seen. We ache for it. We crave it. We literally pay to be seen—we call it therapy or sacred community.

You might have said to yourself many times, “I’m afraid of being seen.” I know I have.

And I’ve held space for countless others who have said the same.

But here’s what I’ve come to believe, through personal experience and deep work with others:

What we fear is not the visibility itself. What we fear are the consequences we’ve attached to being seen and that we sometimes still expect from the world around us. Humiliation, alienation, rejection, loss, persecution…

These core fears that keep us fragmented. They are not irrational. They are encoded in our nervous systems from past experiences—both personal and ancestral.

So of course we hesitate. Of course we hide. Of course we protect.

But here's the truth most people don't say out loud:

Repressing your light is one of the most painful forms of self-abandonment.
In fact, it's often more painful than repressing your wounds.

When we repress a wound, we’re hiding pain we hope to heal. But when we repress our light, we’re denying our essence.

We’re turning our back on the part of us that is radiant, powerful, intuitive, joyful, creative, bold, and wise.

What led me to the work of shadow integration was the profound desire to undo the hidden forces that hindered my radiant self. And that’s a continued practice.

When that part of you goes unexpressed for too long, it festers—not into shame, but into a subtle grief. A grief for a life you could’ve lived. A grief for a self you never let the world meet. A grief for a self you never let yourself fully embrace.

That’s why this work matters.

Being seen isn’t about performance.

It’s not about parading yourself on a stage, collecting accolades, or proving anything to anyone.

It’s about no longer betraying your essence to stay safe.

It’s about no longer outsourcing your belonging.

It’s about recognizing that being seen is a homecoming.

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From Hidden to Heard

I want to invite you to join me on a 90 minute free workshop to help you reclaim your voice, your light, and the somatic safety to be fully seen.

In this workshop, you’ll discover:

• Why you’re not actually afraid of being seen—and what you’re truly protecting

• The five primal fears that keep your light repressed

• Why your creativity, truth, and expression feel so tender to share

• A simple, somatic framework to shift from self-protection to self-honoring

• How to create emotional safety to let your essence lead

Save your seat for From Hidden to Heard

It’s time to bring your essence to the surface. Would you agree?

With reverence,
Xavier

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*PS: Every year I like to invite a few brave souls into deep transformative 1:1 work. The Unleashed Mentorship is a private 8-week experience for visionaries, creatives, and leaders who are ready to set themselves free of the grip of the shadow, live, speak, and lead from their unfragmented truth. Includes full access to the next cohort of SEEN. This is the self liberation lab. It helps you move from repressed, to fully expressed. Only 3 spots available.
→ [Apply here] or reply to this email with “UNLEASHED” for details.