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Ah, I love this so much. Early on in my journey of consciously healing my trauma, I saw a chart that seemed to indicate that heightened emotions could actually lead to death. Scared, I took this to my therapist, who assured me this was not the case. From there I was off, liberating my deepest stuck emotions & holding space for whatever I encountered. I was in significant distress, but I knew none of it would be worse than continuing to live the deadened ways I’d been living. It was a very intensive process that probably is not for everyone but it was right for me. I love what you are pointing out about how we are already always with these emotions. I love the idea of recognizing the strength in ourselves & our nervous systems, not to say that our pain doesn’t matter or that we shouldn’t be affected by it, but to say that we can indeed compassionately move it through us & not only survive, but thrive. I love your work, thank you for all you share.

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Such a great testimony you are. Thank you for your kind words 🙏

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Thank you for sharing your story!

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This is a beautiful distinction, and invite me in the joy of cultivating a conscious relationship with this part of our human apparatus. I love the focus on how powerful the nervous system is. I feel like me and my nervous system are besties. Sometimes one of feels shy or off so we slow down and relax and play in a way that lets the source of that nervousness been seen and greeted with a gentle, oh hi kind of energy

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Yes 🔥

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I really love & appreciate this. Our nervous systems truly are beasts & are extremely resilient! The consistent tending to is what it deserves to function optimally & peacefully. Thank you for your words 🙏🏼

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Agree one hundred percent with our nervous systems not being weak. I think people get hung up on thinking that by resisting the deeper dives they are somehow able to avoid the healing- which many do term as being weak. I have to say the strongest people I know are the ones who have walked the healing path. Thank you for your words. ❤️

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I appreciate you. Thank you for this share

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I love this so completely

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🙏🏾🙏🏾

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I have been feeling really overwhelmed as I dive deeper into my trauma history and that overwhelm has brought despair. This article helped me view it through a different lens and gave me glimmers of hope. Thank you.

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Hello. When I got your email a few weeks ago about the fragility of the nervous system, there was a video of you that accompanied it. I saved it in my mail and now when I open that email the video is gone. This video touched me very deeply and while I do hope to join “embodied light“ in the meantime, I was hoping I could watch that video again as I need to get in touch with your message once or twice more. Please. Is it possible you may share this agsin. Hoping. Thank you, Wendy.

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SO good! Have needed this encouraging empowerment at this re-emerging stage of my healing. A deep description of "you can do it".

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Funny how much a simple reframe can do. It seems so simple on the surface. but the depth. It takes willpower and courage to face yourself but that's exactly what's needed when you've taxed your nervous system so much.

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Absolutely love this. So true. And a great reminder. Thank you, Xavier!

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As someone who has done a lot of internal healing work and walking through pain of the past, I couldn’t agree more. I think sometimes people don’t know that feelings and nervous system overload IS the protection and that those big feelings pass. They demand to be felt and when we can feel them (usually with the help of a somatic therapist) they recede in a way and lessen. And we can then practice and feel what it’s like to have a less burdened nervous system. Like shock absorbers. Then we feel lighter. Thank you for this post. It’s beautiful.

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Thank you for this. I had to dig kind of deep 6 years ago when I eliminated alcohol. The work required to do so entailed observing my behavior, learning about my nervous system, and understanding my power. I was able to get “unstuck” from my need to escape. Fast forward, and I’m stuck in a more beautiful way and feel a little lost … your words gave my back some of my power. Grateful for you.

I can’t wait to learn more so I can give back.

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Thank you so much for putting it into words so beautifully. I needed to see & hear this again today.

ELP has changed my life and has supported me in tumultuous times in the most gentle and benevolent ways and I'm deeply grateful for all you share with us.

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I could not agree with you more. People are terrified of their emotions, sensations in their bodies and instead of getting in relationship with it, they pull back every time they get scared. The thing about this is that life will continue to bring them more and more intense scenarios to "crack them open" until they release this control. I teach a sexual practice for women to learn how to expand their nervous system and feel how powerful they actually are and I have seen these patterns play out over and over. I am so glad people are starting to illuminate the fragile sacred cow of being victims to our bodies.

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Fantastic ! Exactly where my train of thought has been of late

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The missing link we were not taught is The Endocannabinoid system and how it brings the body into homeostasis.

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