Over the years, I got so good at regulating my system that it left me numbed out and more disconnected from the parts of me that need a loving witness. ❤️
Creating space for painful, emotional discomfort is clearly stated. Thank you. Embracing this inner awareness can begin to peek and release the trapped spell it has over us. Being seen brings healing light.
This is very important. Thank you. I totally agree. However, I know people on the media and personally who try to keep their emotions actively "higher" (see levels of consciousness by David Hawkins). E.g. avoid anger, hate, shame etc. and replace it with neutrality, love etc. Even in prayers I discovered this recommendation, at least I could interpret it like that. What is your thought about this? Maybe it's both: staying with shame etc and simultaneously looking at it with love etc. yes
A loving witness. I really don't have a choice. The thoughts just go on and on. I do like giving me the witness a pat on the back..there there every thing is going to be aright
What really stood out to me was the idea that sometimes we use our coping tools to escape from our pain instead of facing it. The metaphor of the radiator and engine really hit home. Just like a radiator that doesn’t match the engine’s power can’t keep it cool, using techniques like deep breathing or meditation just to avoid discomfort won’t solve the deeper issues we’re dealing with.
Instead of using these tools to push our feelings away, we should use them to connect more deeply with our emotions. This shift—from avoiding our pain to embracing it—can help us heal and integrate our experiences more fully.
I do totally concur! Thank you for this piece.
This is phenomenal! Thank you Xavier, so eloquently written.
This resonated so much.... thank you.
Over the years, I got so good at regulating my system that it left me numbed out and more disconnected from the parts of me that need a loving witness. ❤️
Creating space for painful, emotional discomfort is clearly stated. Thank you. Embracing this inner awareness can begin to peek and release the trapped spell it has over us. Being seen brings healing light.
This is very important. Thank you. I totally agree. However, I know people on the media and personally who try to keep their emotions actively "higher" (see levels of consciousness by David Hawkins). E.g. avoid anger, hate, shame etc. and replace it with neutrality, love etc. Even in prayers I discovered this recommendation, at least I could interpret it like that. What is your thought about this? Maybe it's both: staying with shame etc and simultaneously looking at it with love etc. yes
So it's just both, staying with shame etc and simultaneously looking at it with neutrality or love. And feel it all. Yes.
This is brilliant! So true and so wise. Going beyond and deeper. Thank you for putting words to so many important things!!
A loving witness. I really don't have a choice. The thoughts just go on and on. I do like giving me the witness a pat on the back..there there every thing is going to be aright
What really stood out to me was the idea that sometimes we use our coping tools to escape from our pain instead of facing it. The metaphor of the radiator and engine really hit home. Just like a radiator that doesn’t match the engine’s power can’t keep it cool, using techniques like deep breathing or meditation just to avoid discomfort won’t solve the deeper issues we’re dealing with.
Instead of using these tools to push our feelings away, we should use them to connect more deeply with our emotions. This shift—from avoiding our pain to embracing it—can help us heal and integrate our experiences more fully.
Beautiful reframe. Thank you, Xavier.
Thank you for speaking on this.